blind dating

dating is a fishy game....especially if your boyfriend's a sailor.

but even if he's not...there's bound to be something causing a stench.

there are two categories of daters(actually there are around four hundred and twelve, but I'm not in the mood to talk about them)

on one side you have the long term daters: they believe relationships are fixed deposits. your investment lay accumulated for approximately three to six years. they invest most of them selves into their relationships and in return they get higher interest, in the form of one year anniversary gifts, weekend trips and something called stability..sweet very sweet

now on the other hand are my kind of daters: the short term-wham bam scram types. we believe relationships are unreal and long term accounts are useless, and we'd rather invest in stocks, relying on the constant rise and fall, buying and selling...the constant shifting.

our motto being: who need one when i can two..three..four..not necessarily at the same time, but variety is indeed the spice of life!

in Women Of Brewster Place, one of the characters; butch explains his concept of short term tet-a-tets in relation to sugarcane chewing.
most people chew and chew, extracting every last drop of sugar, till all that remains is a mouthful of coarse stalk, leaving your mouth itchy and irritable. the trick to eating sugarcane is to chew out the sweetness and know exactly when to stop, before the stalk crumbles.
so what do people find so wrong in this. they shake their heads at my style of dating, as if it is wrong to opt for only the happy times. does a relationship have to indeed require times of trouble, pain and disappointment in order to be worth of anything?

so what does time do to these two varieties of daters ??

the fixed deposit kind, so used to long term relationships, are less able to value the importance of marriage. since anyway all of their commitments have previously been as long as the average American marriage. but also they have a better chance of getting married at all.

the stockbroker dater on the other hand, ends up either alone, unready to commit to anyone, or down the line hears their grand kids bragging about how their grandpa was such a playboy.


what at the end of the day is of most value i guess is the amount we relish every moment of our time..either spent alone or shared with someone else.